Review: Ordinances
Last week, we talked about why we need priesthood ordinances. Ordinances are to helps us translate commandments into actions, so that we can be worthy to live and persist in God's presence.
Ordinances are symbolic - which remind us of certain things - which in turn help us to remember to do our duty to God and our neighbors. Again, everything ties back to the two great commandments of loving God and loving others.
Now that we understand the why of ordinances, we shift to how do we commit to these commandments, and how do we help others commit to these commandments.
We call these commitments covenants.
Covenants are simply commitments to keep the commandments.
Why Do Covenants "Work"?
Before we get into examples of covenants, let's think about the process of making covenants for a minute. We have these two great commandments and in a lot of ways, commandments are sacrifices of the ego. There are a lot of things that we don't want to do. We may want to party and have a good time and we want everything to go our way. So how do we get people to commit to love God and others?
This is were persuasion and compliance come into play.
There are roughly six persuasion techniques that work on a lot of people. In brief they are:
1. Reciprocity
2. Scarcity
3. Authority
4. Consistency
5. Liking
6. Consensus
All of these techniques factor into religion and marketing and politics. For today's lesson about covenants, we are going to focus on the fourth in the list above: consistency.
Below is a video that briefly explains all of them, but now, we are only going to focus on consistency.
A lot of times in my life as a member of the church, teachers have often used the phrase "milk before meat." This alludes to the fact that you cannot give a baby meat, because they don't have teeth and they could choke on the food and die. Instead, you give the baby milk, then solid food and then eventually the child or young person can eat meat.
Covenants are very similar in the church. Leaders don't ask, nor will they allow, new members to go to the temple right away after joining the church. If they did, they would be weirded out or think it very strange. Other religions are similar, such as Scientology, where they don't let members 'advance quickly' or do things right away. Rather, they get members to commit to smaller things before committing to bigger things.
In the example from the video, the researchers wanted commitment from the neighborhood to post a large sign on the street. By asking them "cold-turkey" most refused and would not commit. But if the researchers were able to get them to commit to a smaller promise and then follow up with the bigger commitment, more people were willing to comply and commit.
This is why we make multiple covenants through our life; such as baptism, priesthood ordination, and temple ordinances. This is also why, in primary, young women's and young men's programs, we ask people to commit to smaller things - such as offering a prayer, giving a talk, going to a service project, helping clean the church and other things. In hundreds of little ways, we are always asking each other to commit to keeping the commandments. Then when it is time to make a bigger commitment (covenant), people are more willing.
The other part of the video describes how people commit to do something. When someone seemingly makes a voluntary and public commitment, they are much more likely to keep that commitment. In the video, he talked about patients committing to an appointment at the doctor. From a doctor's perspective, patients missing their appointments is not a good thing. He wants them to keep their appointments. So, in order to increase the level of commitment among patients, the doctor will have the patient write down the date and time of the appointments rather than the secretary. When they publicly committed to writing the date and time, they were much more likely to keep the appointments.
Similarly in the church, all covenants are done publicly. This is why we invite friends and family to baptisms, ordinations, missionary farewells, temple ordinances and weddings. Even though the temple is not open for the entire public, many families will attend when someone goes to the temple for the first time.
What Covenants Do We Make?
Let's spend some time talking about the covenants we make. What are they?
Baptismal Covenant
- read Mosiah 18:8-10, D&C 20:37
The Sacrament
- read Moroni 4 and Moroni 5, D&C 20:77, 79
Priesthood Covenant
- read D&C 84:33-44
Temple Covenants
- read Endowed From On High Lesson 4
Marriage Covenant
- the church calls this "the new and everlasting covenant"
- sometimes called (and is related to) the Abrahamic covenant
- when it was first revealed, it really meant members we asked to enter into a polygamous and/or polyandrous marriage
- see D&C 132, particularly verse 32 "do the works of Abraham" and then later vs. 58-66
- the church no longer practices "live" polygamous marriages, but does approve "serial" polygamous marriages
- note: President Nelson and President Oaks are sealed (married for eternity) to two wives, even though they had the option to marry their 2nd wife for "time only"
- see "Plural Marriage in Kirtland and Nauvoo"
- see "Plural Marriage and Families in Early Utah"
- see "The Manifesto and the End of Plural Marriage"
